Jul 1 16


Ms. Rita Rents

ClaimYourindependenceCoverWow, it is already July and we are already half way through the year!  In January many of us are looking toward the New Year, making goals and hoping for a better self or a better life.  So, if you were one of the millions who made a New Year’s resolution, how is it going?  Are you where you wanted to be, doing what you wanted to be doing, on the path you’d hoped for?  If so, that’s excellent!  If not, don’t fret, time changes and so can goals.

In honor of Independence Day, I thought we could take a look at things we can claim our independence from and it just so happens that many of these things are also things that are on the top list of New Year’s Resolutions.  If your New Year’s resolution was something you can claim Independence from, take a look at that goal and see if you need to make any tweaks.  If not, maybe add a mid-year goal from something holding you back.

While there are hundreds of things that hold us back, I’ve compiled a list of things that you may consider to set you free!  Good luck on the rest of the year…



Debt is a source of many issues, one of which is health, both physical and mental. If you have had a goal to improve any area of health, you may also want to consider debt. “It might be that debt leads to worse mental health due to the stress it causes. It may also be that those with mental health problems are more prone to debt because of other factors, such as erratic employment,” study researcher Dr. Thomas Richardson, a clinical psychologist, said in a statement. “Equally, it might be that the relationship works both ways.”


Habits are HARD to break! In fact there are millions of publications, articles, papers, speeches, etc on the topic. Why not take a moment and educate yourself on some proven ways to free yourself from bad habits to give yourself the best chance to succeed. Below is a list of some of the top rated publications in the field:

  • Serial Winner: 5 Actions to Create Your Cycle of Success, Larry Weidel
  • Busy, Stressed and Food Obsessed!, Lisa Lewtan
  • The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business, Charles Duhigg
  • Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself: How to Lose Your Mind and Create a New One


It is amazing that sometimes it is our own fabrication of fears that holds us back from independence of health, wealth, success, love, relationships, adventure, etc. I have a friend who embarked on a “Year Without Fear” journey as a New Year’s resolution and his single goal for the year was to recognize when fear impacted his decision in any way and then to make a conscious decision to NOT let fear decide, but make a choice outside of fear. His journey has been liberating!

Make time


One thing I have learned about spare time is that most of us say, “but I don’t have time”. And while it feels accurate, the statement should be “I have chosen to do something different with my time,” because ultimately, we control our time and make choices about our time. Do a simple online search for “How to Find Time for Yourself”, or ask Siri or Cortana, and you’d find an abundance of resources!


No one is guaranteed tomorrow. No one controls our dreams, our success or our destiny. Sure, things hit us in the face as we traverse life, but we have the power of choice and we can control our dreams. There is a quote that says “So far, you’ve survived 100% of your worst days. You’re doing great!”. You can do it, chase your dreams and keep beating the bad days and growing through the good ones.


Bad relationships can seem to direct your life, in a downward spiral. There is a great article in Inc. Magazine about tips to help you recognize toxic relationships which is the first step to independence from them! http://www.inc.com/lolly-daskal/35-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-business-relationship.html

Stop The Negativity


Negative self-talk is a growing issue in a society where media inundates us with how life should be, how we should look, what we should wear, what we should drive, etc. Gaining freedom from negativity can open us up to achieving greater things in all aspects of our life. There are hundreds of books on this subject, but below are a few of the top rated ones.

  • Don’t Let Anything Dull Your Sparkle: How to Break Free of Negativity and Drama, Doreen Virtue
  • Emotional Freedom: Liberate Yourself from Negative Emotions and Transform Your Life, Judith Orloff
  • The No Complaining Rule: Positive Ways to Deal with Negativity at Work, Jon Gordon


“When you release expectations, you are free to enjoy things for what they are instead of what you think they should be.” – Mandy Hale


Unfortunately, there are some aspects of our health that we were handed and others we can control. Most ill health stems from bad habits! Perhaps by tackling the subject of breaking habits, you can help your health in the meantime.

Mindless Technology


Below is an excellent resource on technology and how it is affecting our lives. Perhaps this is an area you wish to gain freedom from!

The constant technology feeding every aspect of our lives is impacting how we live. In fact, a recent study by Common Sense Advisory reported that, “Nearly 80% of teens in the new survey said they checked their phones hourly, and 72% said they felt the need to immediately respond to texts and social networking messages. Thirty-six percent of parents said they argued with their child daily about device use, and 77% of parents feel their children get distracted by their devices and don’t pay attention when they are together at least a few times per week.”

Below is an excellent resource on technology and how it is affecting our lives from (GO-Globe http://www.socialmediatoday.com/social-networks/carianneking/2015-06-26/social-media-addiction-statistics-infographic).  Perhaps this is an area you wish to gain freedom from!